It is a sad fact that children are often the ones most scarred emotionally during a divorce, but it need not be that way. Often, divorcing parents, with the help of family lawyers are able to settle their differences without any vitriol, and as such the children are saved the ordeal of being caught in the middle of their warring parents.
Unfortunately, the opposite can happen with each parent determined to defeat the other with regards to how the divorce is settled, and part of that involves the children being used as pawns, especially with regards to visitation.